Pls i just want to find out something & probably get something heavy off my chest cuz I’m tired & confused about everything right now, pls does it mean that when a mother in law visits she’s supposed to just sleep all day on the couch & not help around with house work?

We were a newly married couple & my mother-in-law visited us & stayed for over a week. She came for a medical treatment cuz she was actually sick, but not sick enough to prevent her from doing housework – she’s not very old either. Yet she’ll always just lie there on the couch, watches TV, & does nothing else.

3 weeks ago on that very faithful Sunday, I wanted to rest, so I asked her to cook since she stays home all day – just so I could relax. She refused. I was angry, so I told her if she didn’t cook, she wouldn’t eat the food I prepared. She didn’t say anything. I cooked that food all by myself thinking she’ll later realize that what she’s doing is wrong or even feel.ashamed and ask me to allow it so she can do it, but instead she just lied down on the couch all through waiting for me to finish so she can eat. I’ve never been this annoyed in my life like that day, she behaves like a child i this was the height of it. I got annoyed & didn’t save her a portion when i.was done cooking..

I served my child & ate with a friend who visited. Then, around 6 PM, I saw her crying – she did this in purpose just so my husband would find her in tears & cause conflict between us. As soon as my husband got home at 6:30 PM, she told him. My husband didn’t even ask for my side of the story. He got upset & immidiately ask me to go to my mother’s house & that– we’d resolve the issue there.

I got soo annoyed & parked my things to my parents should & stayed at my parents for almost 2 weeks thinking he’ll show up to apologize but no instead I’ve been the one calling him and he’ll be avoiding my calls. For 2 weeks, he hasn’t come to apologize to me nor fix things as he promised, instead when I call, he doesn’t answer. Hubby and i were just perfect until he’s mom came into the picture to scarter our marriage and she seems to be succeeding to turn hubba against me

This is so annoying and i don’t know what to do anymore
Why do mothers-in-law meddle in their sons’ relationships like this?
My own mother never visited cuz she knows my husband & i need space. All I wanted was for her to help around the house since she does nothing around the house aside just sit around.

We’re both women – it’s unfair for me to do all the housework while she’s here. She has her own husband’s house but comes to disturb my peace with my husband. This is the sole reason why I’ve always preferred to Marry a man whose mom is of late just to avoid such ‘