On My 30th Birthday My Wife Pretended to Forget, But the Hotel Room I Tracked Her To Shattered Everything I Assumed

 The Birthday That Wasn’t

Turning thirty was supposed to feel… different.

People made such a big deal about it—like life was split into two eras: before thirty and after. My friends joked that it was the beginning of the end. My mom called it “the age you finally grow up.” My coworkers used it as an excuse to drink like college kids again.

Me? I just wanted one thing:

For my wife to remember.

I woke up that morning to gray January light filtering through our half-open blinds in our Denver apartment. The air was cold enough that I could see a faint puff when I sighed.

My phone buzzed on the nightstand. I reached for it.

6:43 a.m.
No notifications from my wife.

I rolled onto my back and stared at the ceiling. Maybe she was planning something. Maybe she was waiting for the “perfect moment” to pounce on me with a cake and balloons and cheesy “Dirty Thirty” jokes.

I turned my head.

Emily’s side of the bed was already empty.

No note. No coffee mug on the nightstand. No sign she’d even been there when the sun came up.

I frowned and picked up my phone again. No texts. No missed calls. The last message from her was from the night before:

Working on something for tomorrow. Don’t wait up if I’m late. Love you.

“Something for tomorrow.”

That had to be about my birthday, right?

I sat up and rubbed my face, trying to shake the unease. I checked the time again.

6:45 a.m.

Emily usually woke up at seven. If she was gone this early, it meant she either had an early shift at the hospital or something else going on.

Except she wasn’t scheduled to work today.

I knew because I’d checked. Twice.

I got out of bed, pulled on sweatpants, and walked into the kitchen. The apartment was quiet—too quiet. The coffee machine was off. Her travel mug was gone from the counter. Her winter boots were missing from their spot by the door.

I opened the fridge. On any normal morning, she’d leave something small—post-it note on the milk, a “Good luck at your meeting” scribbled on a napkin, something. It was her thing.

Nothing.

I exhaled slowly. Don’t be insane, Jason, I told myself. Maybe she ran to the store. Maybe she’s grabbing breakfast to surprise you.

I opened my text thread with her and typed:

Me: Morning. Where’d you go?

I watched the little “delivered” indicator appear.

No typing bubble.

I tried to laugh it off. It was just morning. She was probably driving. Maybe running late.

I made coffee. I showered. I scrolled through social media where friends had already started posting “Happy 30th, man!” messages. Group chat notifications from my fantasy football league blew up my phone.

But nothing from Emily.

By the time it was 9:15 a.m., my chest felt tight.

Finally, my phone buzzed with her name.

Emily: Hey, sorry, crazy morning. Happy birthday!! 🥳❤️
Emily: I totally spaced this morning, I’m so sorry. I’ll make it up to you tonight, promise.

I stared at the screen.

“Spaced.”

Forgot.

My wife “forgot” my 30th birthday.

My thumb hovered over the keyboard. A dozen replies fought for dominance in my head:

Seriously?
You forgot?
You’ve known this date for ten years.
Are you kidding me right now?

Instead, I swallowed the lump in my throat and typed:

Me: Thanks.
Me: Everything okay?

A solid minute passed before she replied.

Emily: Yeah just a lot going on. I’ll explain later. I might be home late tonight too, okay? We’ll celebrate this weekend.

Weekend.

Not today. Not the day that actually mattered.

I stared at those words like they were a foreign language.

Me: Late because of work?
Emily: Kind of. Don’t stress. Love you. ❤️

I put my phone down so hard it clattered against the table.

Something was wrong.

Not the “stress-at-work” wrong.

The “I’m hiding something from you” wrong.

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CHAPTER 2 — The Distance Between Us

If you had told me three years ago I’d be suspicious of my own wife on my thirtieth birthday, I would’ve laughed.

Back then, Emily and I were that annoyingly perfect couple that made other people roll their eyes. We met in college in Boulder—me a business major, her a nursing student. She was the girl who always had extra pens and granola bars. I was the guy who always “forgot” my charger so I’d have a reason to ask for hers.

We married at twenty-six. We bought a small apartment in Denver a year later. She got her dream job as a pediatric nurse. I started climbing the ladder at a mid-size marketing firm. We talked about kids. Dog names. Road trips.

And then… things got complicated.

Her hours got worse. Nights, weekends, rotating shifts. I started working more too, trying to impress a boss who believed “work-life balance” was a myth invented by lazy people. We missed dinners, then weekends, then anniversaries.

And somewhere along the way, without either of us saying it out loud, we stopped being a couple and started being two people sharing a space and a Wi-Fi bill.

In the last six months especially, Emily had been distant. Not cruel. Not hostile. Just… elsewhere.

Distracted.

Always texting. Always “working late.” Always tired.

I’d tried to bring it up a few times, but the conversations turned into arguments. She’d accuse me of not understanding her stress. I’d accuse her of shutting me out. We’d fight, cool down, and then pretend everything was fine.

Maybe that’s why her “forgetting” my birthday cut so deep.

It wasn’t just a date.

It was proof that I’d slid off her priority list.

Around noon, I decided to take the day off work. Thirty deserved at least that much. I sent a quick email to my boss saying I wasn’t feeling well, then shut my laptop.

Still no sign of Emily.

No follow-up text. No phone call. Just the digital equivalent of a pat on the head.

I grabbed my jacket, slipped on my boots, and headed out into the freezing air. Snow from last week still clung to the edges of the sidewalks. My breath fogged as I walked aimlessly downtown, past coffee shops with couples huddled together, past gift stores displaying cheesy birthday cards in their windows.

I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt. She’d always been thoughtful—even when life was chaos.

But “I forgot” rang in my head like an alarm.

On impulse, I pulled out my phone and opened the app we’d installed a couple years ago:

Find My Phone.

We’d set it up together after she’d left her phone in a Lyft one night. We joked about “stalking each other,” but really it was a safety thing. We both worked weird hours. It felt good to know we could check on each other if something went wrong.

I hadn’t opened it in months.

Her phone icon popped up on the screen after a second.

For a moment I expected to see it at the hospital.

It wasn’t.

It was across the city.

Near downtown.

Hovering over a street I recognized—because it was lined with hotels.

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CHAPTER 3 — The Hotel

I zoomed in.

The Franklin Regency Hotel.

My stomach twisted.

Of all the possible explanations that had chilled my bones all morning… this was the one I didn’t want to admit I’d suspected.

A hotel.

On my birthday.

She’d “forgotten.”

I stared at the blip on the map. It stayed still.

I checked the time: 1:27 p.m.

There were, logically, at least a dozen innocent explanations.

Maybe she was meeting a friend visiting from out of town.

Maybe her hospital had a conference room booked there.

Maybe she’d gone to pick up a cake or decorations.

I clung to those ideas. Held them tight.

But my brain whispered the one explanation we never want to say out loud:
She’s cheating on you.

By the time I made it to my car, my hands were shaking. Not from the cold.

From anger. From fear. From the kind of adrenaline that makes everything sharper and louder.

I drove toward downtown, my mind racing ahead. What would I even do? Burst into the lobby and demand answers? Call her? Pretend I just happened to be in the neighborhood?

Halfway there, I almost turned around.

Trust her, a small voice said. Give her the benefit of the doubt.

The other voice was louder:

She lied. She said she’d explain later. You’re not crazy for wanting the truth.

Traffic crawled, but eventually the hotel came into view—sleek glass façade, gold lettering, the kind of place business travelers stayed when their companies were paying the bill.

I parked across the street and sat in my car for a full minute, watching people come and go. Every woman with brown hair made my heart spike until she turned her head and I saw it wasn’t Emily.

I checked the app again.

Her phone was still inside the hotel.

I got out of the car.

The tall glass doors whooshed open as I stepped into the lobby. Warm air washed over me along with the smell of expensive cleaning supplies and too-strong perfume.

The lobby was all marble floors and soft leather chairs. A grand chandelier sparkled overhead. A couple in business attire checked in at the front desk.

I scanned the room.

No Emily.

I forced my voice to steady as I approached the front desk.

“Hi,” I said, giving the receptionist my friendliest smile. “My wife is supposed to be meeting me here, but my phone’s acting weird. I’m trying to figure out if she’s already checked in. Her name is Emily Carter.”

Technically, it was Emily Carter-Miller, but she still mostly used her maiden name professionally.

The receptionist, a woman in her forties with red lipstick and kind eyes, glanced at her screen.

“I’m sorry,” she said. “I can’t give out guest information.”

“Right, I totally understand.” I rubbed the back of my neck. “We’re doing this surprise thing for my birthday and she’s, uh, terrible at directions, so I just wanted to make sure—”

She studied me for a second. Maybe she saw the strain in my smile, the tightness in my jaw.

“How about this,” she said. “I can’t confirm if she’s staying here, but if you’d like, you can take a seat and I’ll let you know if anyone by that name asks for a key or comes by the front desk.”

It wasn’t much. But it was something.

“Yeah,” I said. “Sure. Thanks.”

I sank into one of the leather chairs and tried not to bounce my leg like a hyperactive kid. Ten minutes passed. Fifteen. I checked the app again.

Her phone was still here.

Another ten minutes.

Finally, the receptionist glanced my way and gave a subtle nod.

I sat up straight.

A maid had just stepped off the elevator pushing a cart. Behind her, coming around the corner—

Emily.

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CHAPTER 4 — What I Saw in the Hallway

She was wearing jeans, a cream-colored sweater, and the black boots I’d given her for our anniversary last year. Her hair was in a loose ponytail, her cheeks flushed like she’d been rushing around.

She wasn’t alone.

A man walked beside her.

He was maybe mid-thirties, slightly older than us, with dark hair and a neat beard. He wore a navy dress shirt rolled at the sleeves and carried a laptop bag. They weren’t touching—but they were close.

Emily laughed at something he said, then glanced behind her as if checking to see if anyone was watching.

She didn’t see me.

All the air seemed to leave my body at once.

The rational part of my brain shouted: You don’t know anything yet. That could be a coworker. That could be her boss. That could be—

But the rest of me only saw this:

My wife.
A man.
A hotel.

On my thirtieth birthday.

A roaring started in my ears. Blood. Anger. Panic.

I stood up, but I didn’t walk toward them. Not yet. Instead, I followed from a distance, staying behind a decorative pillar as they crossed the lobby toward the elevators.

The guy pressed the button. They waited.

Emily checked her phone—probably the same one telling me exactly where she was. She bit her lip, then typed something to him. He smiled.

I wanted to punch something.

The elevator dinged. The doors slid open. They stepped inside.

I had two choices.

Walk away now, never know for sure, let suspicion rot me from the inside out.

Or follow them.

I stepped forward just as the elevator doors began to close.

“Hold the door!” I said.

The man reached out and hit the button, stopping the doors from shutting. He smiled politely, the kind strangers give each other in office buildings.

“Thanks,” I muttered, stepping inside.

Emily’s head snapped up.

The color drained from her face.

“Jason?” she breathed.

My heart pounded so loud I was sure they could hear it.

“Hey,” I said flatly. “Funny running into you here.”

Her eyes flicked to the man beside her, then back to me. “What are you doing here?”

“Celebrating my birthday,” I said. “You remember that, right?”

She flinched.

The other man looked between us, clearly confused. “Uh… Emily, is this—?”

“This is my husband,” she said quickly, voice thin. “Jason, this is—”

“Save it,” I said.

Silence filled the elevator like smoke.

The doors closed. The car started moving upward.

“Jason,” Emily whispered, “you’re misunderstanding—”

“Am I?” I snapped. “Because from where I’m standing, you ‘forgot’ my birthday, disappeared to a hotel with some guy, and lied about work. Help me understand what I’m misunderstanding here.”

The man cleared his throat. “Maybe we should step into the hallway and—”

“Stay out of this,” I said without looking at him.

His jaw tightened, but he said nothing.

The elevator dinged at the eighth floor. The doors slid open.

Emily stepped out first. The guy followed. I stayed just a step behind—far enough not to touch her, close enough not to lose them.

They walked down the corridor until they reached Room 814.

She stopped.

Fumbled with a keycard.

My chest burned.

“A hotel room,” I said. “Wow, you really went all out.”

She turned to me, eyes shining. “Jason, please. Just come inside. I can explain everything, I swear.”

The man shifted awkwardly. “I’ll, uh, give you two a minute,” he said. “I’ll be… downstairs.” He handed Emily a small folder, then walked away, practically sprinting toward the elevator.

The door to 814 was still closed. Emily looked like she might throw up.

“Are you cheating on me?” I asked, my voice coming out low and rough.

Her lip trembled. “No. God, no.”

“Then what are you doing here?”

She swallowed. “Please. Just let me show you.”

I stared at her for a long moment.

Then I sighed. “Fine. Show me.”

She slid the keycard. The green light blinked. The lock clicked.

She pushed the door open.

I stepped inside.

And whatever I had expected to see—a stranger in bed, clothes on the floor, some romantic setup that wasn’t for me—was not what waited on the other side.

Not even close.

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CHAPTER 5 — The Hotel Room That Wasn’t What I Thought

The room wasn’t intimate. It wasn’t dimly lit with candles or strewn with rose petals.

It looked like a war zone mid-setup.

Balloons in blue, silver, and black lay half-inflated on the floor. A banner reading HAPPY 30TH, JASON! leaned against the wall, its string still in a plastic wrapper. On the bed were party favors, boxes of decorations, and a stack of printed photos of me through the years—baby pictures, awkward middle school shots, our wedding day, our first apartment.

On the small desk sat a laptop hooked up to a portable projector pointed at a blank wall.

Emily’s handwriting covered sticky notes stuck everywhere:
“Ask Mom to FaceTime in.”
“Playlist: Jason’s favorite songs.”
“Check cake delivery time.”

My anger stuttered.

My brain struggled to catch up.

“This… is for me?” I asked, voice suddenly small.

Tears slipped down Emily’s cheeks. “Yes.”

The balloons. The banner. The photos. The projector.

A surprise party.

Not an affair.

A guilty, humiliating heat crept up my neck.

“But… the guy…”

“Ethan?” she said. “He’s the event coordinator here. I hired him to help set everything up. He’s been helping me schedule everything for weeks.”

Weeks.

I sank down onto the edge of the bed, careful not to crush the decorations.

Emily closed the door behind us and leaned against it, wiping at her face.

“I was supposed to check in early,” she said softly. “Get this all ready before you got off work. Your mom is flying in tonight. Your friends from college drove in. I was going to have them all here by seven. We were going to surprise you when you walked in…” She gestured weakly at the half-finished decorations. “But nothing went as planned. The cake got delayed, Ethan was late because of another event, and I was running around all morning trying to fix everything. I didn’t check my phone. By the time I realized I hadn’t texted you, it was already 9 a.m., and I panicked.”

I stared at the banner.

At my childhood face in one of the printed photos.
At a note that said: “Get video from Ryan of Vegas trip.”

“You said you forgot,” I muttered.

She closed her eyes. “That was a stupid way to put it. I didn’t forget. I was… overwhelmed. I felt guilty for not being there when you woke up. I didn’t want to spoil the surprise, so I said something dumb and vague. I thought I’d calm down and explain everything tonight after the party.”

My chest hurt in a new way now.

“So… why here?” I asked. “Why not at home? Or a restaurant?”

“Because,” she whispered, “you’ve been so stressed. You’ve barely taken a day off in a year. I wanted you to walk into a room that wasn’t full of dirty laundry and work emails. I wanted it to feel like an escape. You always said hotel beds feel like vacations, even if they’re just ten minutes from home.”

I remembered saying that one weekend when we stayed at a motel in the mountains, broke but happy.

“You remembered that?” I said.

“Of course I did.”

I rubbed my face with both hands. “Emily, I… I thought you were cheating on me.”

She flinched again, like I’d slapped her.

“Is that really what you think of me?” she asked quietly.

I looked up.

Her eyes weren’t just hurt; they were wounded. Deeply. Like this wasn’t just about today—it was about everything we’d been through lately.

“I don’t know what I think anymore,” I admitted. “You’ve been so distant. You’re always gone. You’re always tired. You say you’re working late, but you come home looking like you’ve been crying. You shut me out every time I try to ask what’s wrong.”

She looked away.

I pressed on. “And then today, you say you ‘forgot’ my birthday, won’t tell me where you are, and I find you at a hotel with some guy? What was I supposed to think, Emily? That everything was fine?”

Silence.

Then she whispered, “You tracked me.”

“Yeah.” I didn’t bother sugarcoating it. “I opened the app and I followed you.”

She hugged herself, staring at the carpet.

“That’s not okay,” she said, her voice strangled. “You know that, right? What you did—following me, assuming the worst—that’s not okay.”

“Then what was I supposed to do?” I shot back. “Sit at home alone on my thirtieth birthday and just hope you remembered I exist?”

Her head snapped up. “Don’t you dare say I don’t remember you exist. This—” she gestured around the room, “is proof that I do.”

We stood there, surrounded by evidence of her effort and my suspicion, and the weight of it all felt suffocating.

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CHAPTER 6 — Everything We’ve Been Avoiding

She walked over to the window and stared out at the Denver skyline. When she spoke again, her voice was softer.

“You’re right about one thing,” she said. “I have been distant. I have been crying at work. I have been shutting you out.”

I didn’t say anything.

She kept going. “Do you want to know why?”

“Yes,” I said, maybe too quickly.

“Because I’m exhausted, Jason.” Her voice cracked. “Not just ‘tired from work’ exhausted. Soul-deep exhausted. I spend twelve-hour shifts taking care of sick kids, holding their hands when they’re scared, helping parents who are falling apart, working short-staffed because the hospital keeps cutting corners. I come home, and you’re on your laptop, still working at 9 p.m., barely looking up. And when we do talk, it’s about bills or schedules or what’s broken in the apartment.”

She turned to face me.

“We don’t talk about us. Not really. We haven’t in a long time.”

Her words hit like a punch. Mostly because they were true.

I swallowed. “I’ve been working hard for us,” I said. “Trying to build something.”

“I know,” she said. “But it feels like you’re building it next to me, not with me.”

I sank further into the bed. The party supplies crinkled beside me.

She walked closer. “The reason I’ve been crying at work? It’s not just the job. It’s… it’s us. I’ve been so scared, Jason. Scared that we’re turning into roommates. Scared that you don’t see me anymore. Scared that one day we’ll wake up and realize we’ve been strangers for years.”

A lump formed in my throat.

“So why didn’t you say any of this?” I asked hoarsely.

“Because every time I tried, it turned into a fight,” she said. “You’d say I was overreacting. I’d say you were dismissive. We both threw up defenses and nothing got fixed. So I thought… maybe if I did something big for your birthday, something that showed I still see you, still love you, we could start over. A reset button.”

Her shoulders sagged.

“Instead,” she finished, “you assumed I was cheating.”

The shame settled heavy in my chest.

“I’m sorry,” I said quietly.

She nodded, blinking hard. “I’m sorry too. For making you feel like you had to track me just to know what’s going on in my life.”

We both fell silent.

The room was littered with all the things we’d been avoiding: memories, decorations, proof of effort, proof of mistrust.

Finally, I said, “So what do we do now?”

Her lips twitched into a humorless half-smile. “Well, your mom is landing at six. Your friends are probably already on their way. So we either cancel the party and ruin everyone’s plans, or… we get our shit together long enough to hang a banner and inflate some balloons.”

“Can we yell at each other while we inflate them?” I asked.

She actually laughed. A small, brittle laugh—but real.

“Probably not ideal,” she said. “But knowing us? Likely.”

I stood.

“Okay,” I said. “Let’s do this.”

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CHAPTER 7 — The Party, the Truth, and the Ultimatum

The next five hours were a blur of chaotic teamwork.

We hung the banner—crooked at first, then straightened it. We taped photos to the walls, arranged tables, fussed with centerpieces Emily had picked that matched my favorite football team’s colors. The cake finally arrived, a two-tiered monster with “Dirty Thirty, Jason!” written in blue frosting and a tiny fondant laptop on top.

We worked mostly in silence, but it wasn’t the cold, hostile silence we’d grown used to at home.

It was… focused.

Occasionally, our hands would brush as we reached for the same roll of tape or balloon, and both of us would flinch slightly.

At 6:15 p.m., guests started arriving.

My mom burst into the room with her usual dramatic flair, shouting, “There’s my birthday boy!” before she even saw the decorations. When she took it all in, her eyes went glassy.

“Oh, Emily,” she said, hugging her tightly. “You did all this?”

Emily smiled. “Couldn’t let thirty go by unnoticed.”

My friends rolled in carrying six-packs and bad jokes. They slapped me on the back, made cracks about me “finally being old,” and immediately started raiding the snack table.

For a while, the room was filled with laughter and noise. The projector played a slideshow of embarrassing photos from my childhood. Someone started a game of “How Well Do You Know Jason?” which I lost embarrassingly hard.

Through it all, I kept glancing at Emily.

She laughed with my friends, hugged my mom, refilled drinks, guided the evening like a quiet conductor. Every now and then, our eyes would meet. A shared look that said: We’ll deal with this later.

When the crowd finally thinned and the last of my friends stumbled out the door around 10:30 p.m., drunk and happy, the room felt different.

Quieter. Heavier.

Just us again.

Emily kicked off her boots and sank onto the bed with a sigh, carefully avoiding the frosting-covered plates.

“So,” she said softly. “Happy birthday?”

I sat next to her. “Yeah. It was… more than I deserved today.”

She shook her head. “Don’t say that.”

“It’s true,” I said. “You put all this together while I was busy assuming the worst. Tracking you. Freaking out.”

She stayed quiet.

I took a deep breath.

“I’m not going to pretend I was justified,” I said. “I crossed a line. I’m not proud of it. But I also can’t pretend I pulled the suspicion out of nowhere. We’ve been… off. For a long time.”

She nodded. “Yeah. We have.”

I turned to face her fully.

“I love you,” I said. “That hasn’t changed. But I’m scared too. Scared that your first instinct when things get hard is to carry everything alone. Scared that my first instinct is to shut down and bury myself in work. Scared that we’re both so busy surviving that we forgot how to be married.”

Her eyes shone with tears again.

“So what do we do?” she whispered.

This time, I had an answer.

“We get help,” I said. “Not a vacation. Not a fancy party. Real help. Counseling. Therapy. Something. Because clearly, whatever we’re doing on our own isn’t working.”

She swallowed. “You’d go to therapy?”

“If it means not losing you?” I said. “Yeah. I’d go.”

A tear slipped down her cheek. “Me too.”

I reached out, hesitated for a moment, and then took her hand. She squeezed back.

“But,” I added, “there’s one more thing.”

She tensed. “What?”

“No more secrets,” I said. “No more vague texts. No more saying ‘I’m fine’ when you’re not. No more pretending you forgot important things when you actually didn’t.”
She gave a watery laugh. “Okay. Deal. But that goes both ways. No more shutting me out when work stresses you. No more answering emails at midnight instead of answering me when I ask how you’re doing.”
“Deal,” I said.

We sat like that for a long moment, hand in hand, surrounded by curling ribbons and half-deflated balloons, thirty flickering candles still stuck in a cake we never fully finished.

“This isn’t going to fix everything overnight,” she said.

“I know,” I replied. “But it’s a start.”

She leaned her head on my shoulder.

“I really am sorry about this morning,” she murmured. “About how I worded things. About how I made you doubt everything.”

I rested my cheek against her hair.

“I’m sorry I doubted you so fast,” I said. “Next time I’m scared, I’ll talk to you before I go into detective mode.”

“Good,” she said softly. “Because—just for the record—if I ever cheat on you, it’ll be with a plate of nachos, not a hotel coordinator.”

I laughed. A real laugh this time.

“In that case,” I said, “maybe we should order room service.”

She smiled against my shoulder.

“Happy thirtieth, Jason,” she whispered.

“Thanks,” I said. “Here’s to not screwing up the next decade as badly as we did the last year.”

She lifted her head and met my eyes.

“Here’s to trying,” she said.

We kissed.

It wasn’t the fiery, dramatic movie kiss where everything magically becomes perfect in two seconds.

It was better.

It was awkward and soft and honest. Two flawed people choosing each other again, messy and scared and still willing to fight.

Not about hotel rooms.
Not about birthdays.
About us.

Later that night, as we lay in that ridiculously comfortable hotel bed, staring at the ceiling and talking about everything we’d swallowed for months, I realized something:

The worst moment of my life—standing in that elevator, convinced my wife was betraying me—had led to the most honest conversation we’d ever had.

I wouldn’t call it a blessing.

But I would call it a turning point.

And for the first time in a long time, turning thirty didn’t feel like an ending.

It felt like a beginning.

THE END